The Pressure is On

Have you ever felt like you're being pulled in every different direction by the people around you? Why is it that some people seem to know what's best for you, but can't get their own life together? It all boils down to control. They try to control you by threatening you. They try to control you by scaring you. They try to control you by telling you what an idiot you are. Never once do they ask you what you want. It's always what they want for you. While the tactics are bad, the intent can be fine....when you are a child. I am 31 years old, and I'm pretty sure that I know what's best for my life. I am a good mother. I have a fabulous career. My friends are supportive and encouraging. I own my own home. When it comes down to it, I pretty much have my life together. Oh, sure, there are things that I'm working on in my life, certain personality traits that I'm not happy with so I'm working on changing them. But isn't that what you do when you grow as a person?

So where do these people get off trying to tell me how to run my life? And to do it by threats or insults of my character and parenting skills? I've got news for people - I am in charge of my life. I will make the decision that I feel is best, without taking into consideration other people's opinions. The only people that I have to worry about are two little children, and since I would never put them in harm's way, those that are trying to "help me" (control me) can keep their opinions to themselves.

You know, a conversation that I had with a friend a few months ago keeps running through my mind. Basically he told me that he allowed people to interfere in his marriage, and it caused chaos and hurt feelings between him and his wife. He got to the point where he decided that he would allow no outside influences to interfere in his marriage, and if they tried, he would simply cut them out of his life. And that's the point that I'm at now. If anyone trys to interfere in my life and cause chaos and discontent in my life and the lives of my children, I'm done. They're out of my life. "He gone"...as they say at The Cell.

So all I have left to say to those individuals that seem intent on running my life is bring it on. You may not like the results.