Men and Their Lies

I have never understood why men feel the need to lie to us. Oh, sure, they'll turn it around and say that we freak out at the truth which is why they lie. But that is typical "blame all our faults on everyone else" behavior. It is pathetic. You know what? If you were to tell me the truth, I may not like it, but at least I would respect you and have nothing to argue about. I often wonder if men realize what it is that they do to us by lying to us. And it's not just one man. When you get to be my age, you probably have been lied to by several men. Not all the lies are big ones told to cover up their screw-ups. Some are told just because. Some are told to make them look better. But each and every lie that I've been told has turned me into an untrusting person. I hate the woman I have become. I can't believe a word that comes out of a man's mouth unless I have checked the facts. What began as unquestionable faith has turned into doubts and questions. Every lie that I have been told makes me just a little bit more jaded, a little bit more insecure, a little bit more angry and a little bit more untrusting. I hate questioning my man. I love him and I want so much to believe everything he says to me. I hate the doubts that I have in my mind about his fidelity. I hate feeling like he's cheating on me when he's not with me. The problem is that he just doesn't care. He doesn't care that I am the way I am because men have made me that way. He doesn't want to take the extra time to explain things to me, or reassure me of his love and commitment. Instead, he just gets angry at me and accuses me of interrogating him. Then he hides things more and shuts me out even more. Which makes me say yep, I knew it. He's just as pathetic as the rest of them. If he would only take the time to reassure me, if he would be open and honest with me, if he would show me that he cares, in time my faith in him and our relationship would be restored and we'd be in a better place. I know what I need to do, but if he doesn't work with me, things will never get better.

Read more about men and their lies and the effect it has on us women here and here