Dear Men:
Look, we love you. We admire you, we cherish you and we know how smart you are. But let's face it. You don't think the way us women do. So when we make a suggestion of something sweet that you could do for us, we're not trying to control you. We're not trying to dictate your life and we certainly aren't trying to manipulate you. We just know, as women do, that you won't think of it on your own. It's not that you don't care about us. It's not that you're stupid. It's just that you men rarely think on an emotional level. So that's why we try to help you along by offering suggestions of what you can do. Instead of taking offense and puffing out your chest (because we already know and appreciate that you are the strong handsome man), maybe you could just do it. I mean, we already know you would have thought of it yourself if you didn't have all these other more important issues on your mind.
Remember, keeping your woman happy will ultimately keep you happy. Then we won't pout and make your life miserable. Because really, we just want to be shown how much you love us and how much we mean to you. That's all. So do us a favor (and yourselves) and be sweet to us. Trust me. The appreciation that you get from us may just make you lay back and say "oh yes".
Love always,
Women
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4 comments:
This is great. I have faith that atleast some men get this. Keep your fingers crossed.
I think most men get it. I've realized that they aren't as bad as we make them out to be, and we aren't as bad as they make us out to be. The problem is not so much stubbornness or incapability, but different communication styles. Once we realize that we ARE different then we may be able to be more understanding of each other, if not more tolerant. They don't understand why we're so emotional and we don't understand why they're so --- NOT!!! So when we make suggestions to them its not that we're trying to control them, usually, we're just trying to help them be emotional. And when they tell that we try to manipulate them or dictate their lives, it's just that they don't understand the differences between us. Or something along those lines ;-)
Here's some comments some anonymous men left on my other blog in relation to this one...
I wanted to post a comment to your "OPEN LETTER" from your other blog, but that blog does not allow for anonymous entries, so I am publishing my comments here. I hope you do not mind.
I for one am offended as a man by your insinuation that men are incapable of thinking emotionally. Therefore, I offer this discourse to open your mind and I respectfully hope that you seriously consider what I say.
First off, perhaps your experience of men that are not capable of using emotion to make decisions says something about the sort of men you surround yourself with. I would certainly like to point out that your generalization of men is just that...a generalization. Quite frankly, it seems as though you haven't put much objective thought into what you have said. This brings me to my next point.
Perhaps you are interpreting men as being incapable of exercising "feminine" type emotion because that is all that you know. At the risk of sounding somewhat closed minded myself, I would like to ask whether or not you have considered the idea that men do take time to THINK and that our cognitive thought (that being evidence and argument) counterbalances our emotional side, and thus perhaps this cognition or thoughtfulness has masked the emotion for which you women yearn. If that is a possibility, then it is not the men of the world who are lacking, but rather the women, for this option proves men to be more well rounded individuals.
Make no mistake about it...Men are emotional and we do deeply care about others and think about their feelings. Often times, however, it is difficult to communicate our reasons to women because, and forgive me for saying it, women are very single minded. Not everything hinges on feelings. Sometimes we have great reasons that are rebuffed as "macho" because women are being too closed minded to actually listen to what we are saying. My advice, if I may offer it, is to re-evaluate what you really think, citing actual evidence and authority for your point of view, and if you still think that what you have contended is correct, it is probably an opinion formed in reaction to a guy whom you should not associate yourself with. Real men do not fit the conception of which your blog has described. Just food for thought.
October 31, 2007 12:41 AM
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Anonymous said...
You hit the nail on the head:
"... women are very single minded. Not everything hinges on feelings."
And not everything is all about them. As men, we wisely avoid the single-mindedness, but some of our brethren try to make it work only to become the fodder for more of their single-minded attacks on our masculinity.
"Real men do not fit the conception of which your blog has described."
November 2, 2007 1:55 PM
Dear anonymous men....
While I absolutely appreciate your viewpoint, I feel that I must point out the obvious....if my thoughts and opinions don't apply to you, and you are capable of thinking emotionally, then I applaud you. I'm sure your wife or girlfriend is a very happy woman.
However, there is a book which my boyfriend told me to read because it would make me understand why he acts the way he does. I thought it was a ridiculous book, and it was written by a man. You should check it out....http://www.amazon.com/Its-Guy-Thing-Owners-Manual/dp/1558744649/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-5206562-2325618?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1194049276&sr=1-1
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