There are times in our lives when we meet a person who is so extraordinary that we become a better person just by knowing them. This is the case with me and R.
Before I met him, I was happy person, but I wasn't very excited about life. I was content in my life. I had tons of friends. I was close with my family. I had a job which I liked. I was constantly doing things. But I had no ambition. As much as I had going on in my life, I was pretty resigned to the “fact” that this is my life, these are the cards I was dealt, I wasn’t going to accomplish anything more, not to bother having any dreams or goals for myself, and that I was never going to meet the one who was perfect for me in every way. And then, by a bizarre twist of fate, R walked into me life.
This man is one of the most intelligent people I have ever met. And you know what? He’s all self-taught. He has so much ambition, so much drive, you know that when he sets his mind to do something, he WILL do it. He’s not only knowledgeable about things like WWII, computers, religion, politics, photography, home improvement, travel, languages, history, music, finances (see what I mean), but this man has the type of integrity, honor and class that is rare in most people you meet today. And there’s more. When he loves you, he loves you with everything that he has. He will bend over backwards to be there for you. You never have to question where you stand in his life. He’s the most loyal person I’ve ever known. He would sooner be hurt himself than to ever cause pain to the one that he loves. There are so many admirable traits about this man that if I kept writing it would fill a book.
Because I had the blessing of having him in my life, I’ve become a better person. I’ve set, and achieved, goals that I never thought I would reach. I’ve began to live dreams that I had long since (pre-motherhood) given up on. I’ve traveled to places I never thought I would see. I’ve been loved unconditionally, and taught to love the same way. I’ve learned that these really are the best years of my life, and I’ve been lucky enough to share them with him.
Life with him hasn’t always been easy, and I know he’ll be the first to say that life with me isn’t always easy. Being a man coming into a relationship with a single mom is not easy. Actually, it was probably one of the most difficult things he’s ever had to do. But he didn’t give up. Dealing with the ghost of my ex was no picnic for him either. But, again, he didn’t give up. I had the misfortune of having pathetic people whisper in my ear about him. That wasn’t easy either. And, while my kids can still be difficult (as all children are), and my ex still sticks his nose where it doesn’t belong, and I still get people telling me lies about him, none of it matters. He and I have stuck it out and are able to sit back and laugh.
R’s brother said something to me that I’ve kept going back to lately…”true love never dies”. And it’s true. R and I have had our ups, we’ve had a lot of downs, but when you love the way we love each other, no outside source is going to be able to break that. Thanks, R, my superhero, for enriching my life. I wouldn’t trade these past years for anything, and I hope to have 50 more with you.
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