That's probably the best advice I've ever heard. I mean, when you think about it, it's totally true. You spend all your time putting someone else first in your life. You wonder what they're thinking, are they happy, are they sad, what can you do to make them happy. And to them, you're nothing more than an afterthought. Someone to warm their bed once a week. A weekend girlfriend or boyfriend or something like that. They spend maybe one day with you on the weekend. And then when Monday comes, they ignore you like you don't exist. MAYBE they'll send you a text message or an email. MAYBE they'll answer the phone if you call. But, more often than not, they don't think about you. You get frustrated and sad and wonder what did you do that was so wrong. What can you do differently to get them to look at you the way you look at them. But the truth is, nothing. When it's gone, it's gone.
All you can do is stop making someone a priority when you are nothing more than their option.
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you never really know if someone is thinking of you or not. The trick is not to think about it. Cut your connections with that person if they don't return calls, or appear to not want to know you 6 out of 7 days in a week and see if they respond with trying to communicate with you. If not all you can do is move on right?
Moving on is usually the better option ;-)
It's not hate that kills people but indifference
It s really hard when you're haunte dby someone who doesnt even care about you...
I love that saying -it will help me in the up-coming events.
Your words speak my feelings perfectly. It amazes me how one person can make you so happy, yet so frustrated. I frequently wonder if I am rushing things or if my expectations are too high... but that may be me just making excuses. Thank you for sharing this. :)
You couldn't have spoken to me with such clarity. I've hung around for 4 1/2 years wondering will the day ever come when he'll realize that I am the one he's been looking for. But the truth is, he really is not that into me. I'm the one who kept pushing to keep the relationship, I'm the one who buys his love (so shameful), I am the one who is trying to make something out of nothing. The sad truth, he will never love me the way I love him.
Love yourself first and the universe will bring amazing people into your life. Never ever settle for less than what you deserve.
Like others here, I made him a priority for 5 years, before wiseing up and realizing his being busy, was lame. He didn't want to make me a priority. Bye bye loser LJN
I am currently in the same situation at the moment as you were when you was writing about your experience in your above blog. I came across the quote, "Never make someone a priority when you are only their option" in a website whilst looking for a tattoo. I paused for a second and started to reflect with regards to the situation that I am in now. I am currently seeing this girl who has been in an on and off relationship with someone else for the past 8 months. Due to her personality and our common interest I soon felt myself falling in love with her, she told me that she loves me too. I told her how i felt and that I want to spend my future with her. It was not until recently that she said she needed time to find herself again and find out how she realy feels about me. I agreed at the time to go on a break however we still kept seeing each other. It seems however that even thought I do put her first and I do go out of my way for her, I am only her option. I am lost at the moment, and it does seems to affect my everyday life. I guess I am writing this message to you, as I did seek comfort in your blog. It has made me realise that life goes on no matter what. I am trying not to make her my priority but it is hard to change especially since I love and care for her very much. I am not expecting a reply to this message, it is more of a thank you. So Jenn, thank you for sharing your blog. Even though my mind is still cloudy and I can not see a way out at the moment, it gives me comfort to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I will try not to make people my option and as you said, "I never want to make anyone feel that way".
There is well said by someone some where:You are responsible for what is happenning to you and You shall be responsible, what shall happen to you.
So take it easy.
Only you can make differrence in your life,no one else.
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