“It’s okay for you to be human. You can make mistakes and you odn’t have to walk around on eggshells or pretend to be a certain way when you’re near me. You don’t have to worry that I’ll freak out every time you disappoint me. I accept the fact that when I’m disappointed, the disappointment is coming from my own thoughts. I have preferences, but won’t allow those preferences to ruin my life. You can have low moods and you even have my permission to be less than perfect. I’m okay even when you’re not okay, and I love you as unconditionally as I know how.”
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff in Love by Richard Carlson, Ph.D. and Kristine Carlson
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if our partner said this to us and if we said this to them? How better would our relationships be if this were the case? Sadly, it's almost never the case. I've learned that the one we claim to love the most is the one we hurt the most. I wonder why it is that we tolerate mistakes from mere acquaintances or strangers, but if our partner screws up we can't forgive. Isn't that backwards? Maybe we all need to make a conscious effort to treat our partner with the love, respect, admiration and tolerance that we want them to treat us with.
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